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09 May 2010 @ 09:22 pm
Be a parent, damnit!  
I know it's Mother's Day and everyone is feeling all the warm and fuzzies for their Mamas. Whether you love her or you hate her, today is the one day where you gotta be nice to her right? Society and all that crap.

This post isn't about Mother's Day, not exactly. It's more about parents in general. I'm pissed as hell and this is my LJ so I don't have to take it anymore.

There are spoilers for Kick-Ass under the cut.

Mother's Day is a crappy day for me in general. I don't want to get into it here but regardless, my husband, in his awesomeness, always does something nice for me. We have these funky Mother's Day traditions that we love. Today, we went to see Kick-Ass. It's not your traditional Mother's Day but it's us.

We were late (due to circumstances beyond our control) and we got there in the middle of the first preview. We found some seats, it wasn't very crowded. I saw two people in front of us, a seat between them. I figured it was like one of those "we're not gay" or that they didn't know each other. But then I heard it...

I heard a voice.

A child's voice.

I waited for the preview to have enough light for me to lean forward. And what did a see. A six year old and an eight year old. One in the seat between the two women, the littlest one on the other side.

I looked at my husband, already getting pissed. You see, I have two things that send me into a rage. Children and animals treated poorly. They can't defend themselves, can't stand up for themselves. That is why children have parents. Parents are supposed to protect those that can't protect themselves.

Now Kick-Ass is not a kid's movie. It's rated R. The first five minutes of the movie, the main character is jerking off and there is the hint of a woman's nipple. You've got a preteen girl merrily slicing and dicing drug dealers.

At one point, the six year old had her arms wrapped around her, her feet on the seat, rocking back and forth. Her seat kept moving and my husband and I lean over to see what was going on. She was clearly scared. When she had to go to the bathroom, did her mother take her? No. Her mother told the eight year old to take her. Now I don't live in a crime ridden area but we were in the last theater on the end, the bathroom was near concessions.

Then I get home and I see things like this.

What the fuck is wrong with people? Honestly. And then people wonder why this country is going down the toliet. When I was growing up, my parents didn't let me see an R rated movie until I was 18. If they even heard a rumor that I went to one, I was in deep shit. They sure as hell weren't taking me to them. Even when we moved to bumfuck nowhere, USA, they never let me or my brother go to the bathroom unattended until we were older. And if I talked to my parents the way kids today talk to them, I would have gotten a slap across the mouth or a bar of soap on my tongue. Yes, my mother washed my mouth out ONCE. ONCE and I learned my lesson. I still don't even say 'shit' around her cause even though she is over 60, she will soap my mouth out so fast, it'll make your head spin. I take care of her and I still have to tell her where I'm going, when I will be home, etc.

I guess the whole purpose of this rant is that parents need to start being parents again. You want to be your kid's best friend, to give them everything they want, that is why so many adults are in crushing debt. Because they see a new car, they buy it. Doesn't matter if they can afford it or not. Cause they got everything they ever wanted as children because their parents were afraid of disappointing them. GET OVER IT! These kids are no respect for themselves or anyone else because they spent their whole lives being told they are special little snowflakes. More special then the rest of the little snowflakes. And those special snowflakes get whatever they want, whenever they want.

Or you've got that other end of the spectrum, where the parents don't even give a damn. Because rather than pay for a sitter or wait until it comes out on DVD, they take their kids to an R rated movie. They leave them in Wal-Mart and don't even notice until they are on the tv. They have hands out, waiting for the rest of the world to raise their kids for them.

Forget it. Nothing's going to change. I'm going back to my Mother's Day of Gypsy and Mommie Dearest (Another strange tradition, I know).
Current Mood: crankycranky
Current Music: Watching Gyspy on TCM
The Mezzanine: French (demon)deird1 on May 10th, 2010 04:31 am (UTC)
*applauds your rantiness*
Kelly: Buffy: Bumpxlivvielockex on May 10th, 2010 07:46 pm (UTC)
Thank you. :)
housem24fan: Watchmen Icon-Rorschach Quote of Winhousem24fan on May 10th, 2010 04:42 am (UTC)

I am so freaking sick of the crapload of bad parenting in action I keep seeing these days! If it isn't kids being taken to age inappropriate films, it's spoilt kids whining at the top of their lungs for things in the store while their parents do NOTHING but pander to their wishes or pretend nothing's happening despite the angry stares from other people (THIS=MAJOR PET PEEVE OF MINE).

I am so sick of these idiot parents who are so scared of making their kid upset that they give them everything they ask for and do NOTHING to curb poor behavior! I have a neighbor across the street whose son is possibly THE BIGGEST pain in the ass brat, yet she acts as though he's a perfect little angel. Every wrong thing he does is excused with "he's just so intelligent that he needs a LOT of stimulation for his brain..he's just PLAYING". WTH?!

My mother would NEVER have let me act the way this kid or so many others like him do! I'd have had every privilege known to man revoked!

There's nothing I can about it though except make a solemn vow to myself that if and when I ever have a child and/or children, I try my damnedest to nip this stuff in the bud before it gets out of hand! Also, I do not think any movie is worth the massive nightmares it could bring a small child.

On a brighter note, I hope you enjoy your mother's day traditions. ♥
Kelly: ATS: Wes RAWR!xlivvielockex on May 10th, 2010 07:51 pm (UTC)
I will never forget that when I was six, I threw a tantrum in our local Sprouse Rightz (which was like a Walgreens/CVS/Kmart kind of store). My mom wouldn't get me this Ken doll I wanted. She told me if I didn't stop the tantrum immediately, she was leaving me there. Know what she did? Left me there. Yup. She walked right out of the store. To a six year old, it felt like she was gone for hours but it was probably only 10 minutes. She knew the owners, so I wasn't in any harm but you can bet your ass that I never threw another tantrum in public over a toy again.

I think way too many parents have hopped on the blame anything but my kids bandwagon. And with so many docs handing out Ritalin and ADHD diagonsises like it was going out of style, it's no wonder. Oh, it's not little Madison's fault, she has ADHD. This is me, rolling my eyes and snorting. Bull and shit.
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Kelly: Buffy: Ozxlivvielockex on May 10th, 2010 07:53 pm (UTC)
I have a goddaughter who is one of the smartest, well mannered kids around. And I'm not just saying that cause she's mine. LOL She always gets complimented on it. And that is because her mom was A MOM. Not her best friend, didn't give her everything she wanted. She put her in time out, she punished her.

I just get mad when I see any idiot having kids when so many intelligent, hardworking people I know can't have kids. That is what really irritates me.
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Kelly: Bones: Angelaxlivvielockex on May 10th, 2010 07:55 pm (UTC)
I don't know if people will like me in office. LOL I would ban any one under the age of 17 from R rated movies, even if they are with an adult. And I would for sure make people pass a test to have kids. LOL

If you have ever seen the movie Idiocracy, I worry everyday that is the way our society is going.
I lol'd: what is this I don't evenzarahjoyce on May 10th, 2010 06:51 am (UTC)
A six and an eight-year-old watching Kick Ass?

...dude, I won't even watch that movie. What.
Kelly: ATS: Team Angelxlivvielockex on May 10th, 2010 07:55 pm (UTC)
They were so scared too! That is the kicker for me. The mom just ignored them. It's like how can you be so selfish?
Angry Scientist: TSCC: Cam [blank]angryscientist on May 10th, 2010 07:47 am (UTC)
It's like the story about a midday showing of Hostel which had kids up up to the age of 8, including babies in strollers. Some people just don't deserve to have kids.
Kellyxlivvielockex on May 10th, 2010 07:56 pm (UTC)
I wish I could be like oh yeah, I'm surprised but I'm not. When I lived in Tucson, the cheap theatre ALWAYS had little kids at R rated movies. It pissed me off then, still pisses me off today.
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Kelly: LOTS: Caraxlivvielockex on May 10th, 2010 08:00 pm (UTC)
I cheered myself up with my Mommies-gone-bad old movie fest last night. LOL

The kick is that I have a goddaughter. And we take her to the movies. We took her to see How To Train Your Dragon on Saturday. We always research movies when we take her out to make sure they are age appropriate for her.

She is 11 now but a few years ago she wanted to see Twilight. She asked her mom who told her no, then she asked me and I told her no. She was upset but at the time, we didn't feel it was the right movie for someone her age. She got over it. She's not emotionally scarred or messed up cause we told her no Twilight.
leobrat: pic#100431282leobrat on May 10th, 2010 11:24 am (UTC)
Hear hear. So much word.
Kelly: TB: Best Compliment EVERxlivvielockex on May 10th, 2010 08:01 pm (UTC)
Too bad we can't do anything about it, you know?
Sarahboy_named_susie on May 10th, 2010 07:20 pm (UTC)
I feel like bad parenting has become the norm, rather than the exception, which is infuriating and sad at the same time.

Another example of bad parenting involving Wal-Mart and Ohio - http://www.dispatch.com/live/content/local_news/stories/2010/03/11/man-punched-children-for-fun-police-say.html

I mean, seriously, how does this guy go around punching kids in the head at Wal-Mart for months before he gets caught? Don't people pay any attention to their kids in public?
Kellyxlivvielockex on May 10th, 2010 08:03 pm (UTC)
GIIIIIIIIRL! Where you been? LOL Tell your job to shove it.

I tried to find this other story where this lady had 18 kids and was wanting the state to take care of her cause her drug dealing boyfriend got busted. She said, and I quote "I'm owe something". Like what? You are owed for what exactly? Your ability to breed?

It's shows like The Gosselins and the Duggars that are making people into breeding machines instead of actually caring for their children. It just gets me so mad.